Stop talking yourself down
Have you listened to yourself in a meeting lately? In an interview or presenting to an audience? How often do you talk yourself down… minimising your accomplishments, achievements and skills? Do these sound familiar:
Oh I’m overqualified for my job but…
It’s not my best work…
Oh I haven’t been too well so I haven’t succeeded as much as I like…
No-one wants to work with or promote a woman who doesn’t believe in herself and her abilities. What’s more, people will remember what you said — and often not that it was you who said it. They’ll just remember hearing that statement about you.
Would you sit there and think “oh they are CEO material” if someone spends half of their time in a meeting or in a conversation talking themselves down? No. But your brain will log the negative things they’ve said about themselves.
We want positive. We want to be motivated and inspired. So why aren’t you being that person yourself? It’s time to change your behaviour. Your attitude towards yourself. Here’s how…
1. Analyse what you say
Spend a week listening to yourself in all different environments. What are you telling other people about how you feel about yourself based on your words
2. Say less
Don’t feel the need to say more than you need. The more you talk, the more diluted your message becomes. Say what you need to say and then… Stop. Right. There.
3. Talk yourself up
And talk yourself up to yourself. Before each meeting or conversation, recite to yourself something positive about what you’re achieved and who you are
4. Remove sorry
Stop saying sorry all the time. Save it for when it matters and when you truly are. Don’t blurt it out purely because you feel guilty talking yourself up or because you assume you’re not good enough.
5. Right people
Surround yourself with people who support you and where you’re headed. Your inner circle is crucial as your outer business networks will be vicious and not care for you at all.
6. Remind yourself
Make notes on your phone, in your car and office. I like to use abbreviations so no-one will understand that they mean. For example Talk Yourself Up should be TYU.
You’ve got this.