Practice Self-Love

Hey you! Did you know that you are very special? There is no other person in this world like you. You deserve to be loved not only by those around you but by the most important person in your life — YOU. Practicing self-love can be challenging for many of us, especially in times when we face serious challenges. It’s not about being self-absorbed or narcissistic, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our happiness. We practice self-love so we can push through our limiting beliefs and live a life that truly shines.

So do yourself a favor, take a deep breath, give yourself a little hug and start practicing the following:

  1. Start each day by telling yourself something really positive. How well you handled a situation, how lovely you look today. Anything that will make you smile.
  2. Fill your body with food and drink that nourishes it and makes it thrive.
  3. Move that gorgeous body of yours every single day and learn to love the skin you’re in. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself.
  4. Don’t believe everything you think. There is an inner critic inside of us trying to keep us small and safe. The downside is this also stops us from living a full life.
  5. Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you. Let them remind you just how amazing you are.
  6. Stop the comparisons. There is no one on this planet like you, so you cannot fairly compare yourself to someone else. The only person you should compare yourself to is you.
  7. End all toxic relationships. Seriously. Anyone who makes you feel anything less than amazing doesn’t deserve to be a part of your life.
  8. Celebrate your wins no matter how big or small. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you have achieved.
  9. Step outside of your comfort zone and try something new. It’s incredible the feeling we get when we realize we have achieved something we didn’t know or think we could do before.
  10. Embrace and love the things that make you different. This is what makes you special.
  11. Realize that beauty cannot be defined. It is what you see it as. Don’t let any of those Photo-shopped magazines make you feel like your body isn’t perfect. Even those models don’t look like that in real life.
  12. Take time out to calm your mind every day. Breathe in and out, clear your mind of your thoughts and just be.
  13. Follow your passion. You know that thing that gets you so excited but scares you at the same time. The thing you really want to do but have convinced yourself it won’t work. You should go do that!
  14. Be patient but persistent. Self-love is ever evolving. It’s something that needs to be practiced daily but can take a lifetime to master. So be kind and support yourself through the hard times.
  15. Be mindful of what you think, feel and want. Live your life in ways that truly reflect this.
  16. Treat others with love and respect. It makes us feel better about ourselves when we treat others the way we hope to be treated. That doesn’t mean everybody will always repay the favor, but that’s their problem not yours.
  17. Find something to be grateful for every day. It’s inevitable that you are going to have your down days. This is fine and very human of you. It’s especially important on these days to find at least one thing you are grateful for as it helps to shift your mind and energy around what’s going on.
  18. Reach out to family, friends, healers, whomever you need to help you through the tough times. You are not expected to go through them alone.
  19. Learn to say NO! Saying no sometimes doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you a smart person.
  20. Forgive yourself. You know that thing you did one time (or maybe a few times) that made you feel bad, embarrassed, ashamed? It’s time to let that go. You can’t change the things you have done in the past but you can control your future. Look at it as a learning experience and believe in your ability to change.
  21. Write it down. Head swimming with so many thoughts it’s giving you a headache? Write them all down on a piece of paper, no matter how crazy, mean, sad, or terrifying they are. Keep it in a journal, tear it up, burn it, whatever you need to do to let it go.
  22. Turn off and inwards. Grab a cup of your favorite tea, coffee, wine, whatever your choice of drink, and sit down for a few minutes on your own. No TV or distractions, just you. Think about the wonderful things that are happening in your life right now, what your big dreams are and how you can make them happen.
  23. Give up the need for approval from others. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” — Dita Von Teese
  24. Be realistic. There is no person on this earth that is happy every single moment of every single day. You know why? Because we are all human. We make mistakes, we feel emotions (good and bad) and this is OK. Allow yourself to be human.
  25. Get creative and express yourself in whatever way you like. Painting, writing, sculpting, building, music, whatever takes your fancy, and make sure you leave your inner critic at the door. There are no right ways to be creative.
  26. Let go of past trauma and wounds. This can be a really tough one and it may be one of those times you need to turn to others for support. The truth is though, when we let go of things that have happened to us it’s almost like a weight is lifted off our shoulders. We don’t have to carry that around with us anymore. We deserve better.
  27. Find your happy place. Where’s the one place you feel totally at ease, calm, happy, positive, high on life? Go to that place when you are going through hard times, or imagine yourself being there. Think about how it feels, what it smells like, what it looks like.
  28. The next time you are feeling happy and on top of the world make a list of your best qualities and accomplishments. It may sound a little corny, but it can be a wonderful reminder when you are having a day that’s less than amazing.
  29. Get in touch with your inner dialogue. If it’s anything less than loving, encouraging and supportive, it’s time to make a change. You deserve to be spoken to in the same way you would speak to your best friend, sister, brother, daughter, or son.
  30. Have fun! Get out there and do the things that light your fire. Enjoy them, enjoy being you and enjoy your incredible life.

 

“Life is hard at times. But when I overcome more challenges, I become much stronger then. So I’m going to embrace them.”

Who Are You?

Themes To Consider |

  • Understand your current attitude, and the reasons for your attitude.
  • Explain the benefits of being organized.
  • Develop a plan for managing your time.
  • Differentiate between honesty and integrity.
  • Define adaptability as an effective change strategy.
  • Recognize that flexibility can lead to positive results.
  • Identify the impact of dependability.

Adopting a Positive Mental Attitude

(What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.) –Napoleon Hill

  • Analyze the origins of your attitude.
  • Explain why people get and defend negative attitude.
  • know the mechanics of changing your attitude.
  • Choose the attitude you want to take to work.
  • Define self – talk and how it affects you.
  • List five strategies you can implement to make your attitude more positive.

Adopt a strategy for personally managing change.

Keep a journal and decide how you are going to use this tool.

Whether you’ve ever had a job or not, you already have an attitude toward work, and it is likely the one that you have toward life in general. Your attitude began forming when you were very young. It was created by the messages you got first from your parents and later from your teachers and friends and other influential people in your life. Now that you have an attitude, you constantly reinforce it with your self talk – what you tell yourself every minute of every day. Your attitude expresses, both inwardly and outwardly, who you think you are. The only question is whether your attitude is positive, negative, or somewhere in between – and whether or not you would like to change that.

Mental Attitudes

Abraham Lincoln once said, “In the end a man is more or less as happy as he make up his mind to be.” You might think that your attitude is a result of your experiences, and there is some truth to that.But mostly, your attitude is the result of your interpretation of your experiences.

Certainly, experiences that cause mental trauma or are accompanied by strong emotions, especially fear, can have a lasting effect. Victims of child abuse or neglect, for instance, have a lot to overcome on their way to personal achievements and satisfying relationships. trust, once lost, is hard to recover, and without trust in others, we lack a basic tool in our quest for a satisfying life.

Fortunately, despite the fact that everyone has negative experiences in their past, most people can find ways to rise above their circumstances and live a happy, positive life if they really want to.

Negative Mental Attitudes

How many people would you predict face each day with a negative mental attitude?

Surveys suggest that at least 60% of people have a negative mental attitude towards their job. These people, of course, justify negative attitudes. Their Supervisor doesn’t like them. The work is demeaning. The pay is low. Various situations are unfair. The list goes on and on.

Still, some people in the exact same situation have positive attitudes.You may have noticed that unhappy people always have explanations for why other people are happy and they are not.

For instance , happy people don’t have the stresses that unhappy people have. In reality, happy people experience the same challenges as everyone else, including job losses, problems with their children, money troubles, and disagreements with their love ones. The main difference between happy people and unhappy people is ATTITUDE.

Positive Mental Attitudes 

Just as we’ve seen with negative attitudes, a positive mental attitude is also a self – fulfilling prophecy. Successful people have to do work for their success. in other words, for hard work to lead to success, your attitude must be expectant, hopeful, resilient, persistent – in a word, positive. Of course, this is easier said than done. But the first step is to decide that you want to be positive, successful, and happy. Then, believe that these things are possible for you.

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

– Winston Churchill

To change the messages you may be sending yourself, stop and ask yourself this: “What are you thinking?”Everyone has chatter going on in their heads, conversation with yourself, personal observations, judgments, opinions, commentaries. This is your self talk – can reinforce  negative attitudes or positive attitudes. So begin by becoming aware of your own self – talk. In general, what are you saying to yourself? Is your self – talk critical, mean- spirited, judgmental, forgiving, tolerant, generous or boastful? Are you suspicious of people and their motives, or do you trust in people and believe their intentions are largely good?

How To Listen Well

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Do you want to master the art of listening? If you tend to zone out when someone’s talking, or you notice that people don’t often choose you as a confidant, it’s time to start practicing this skill. Taking an active, engaged approach to listening will improve your relationships and enrich your experience of the world. If you want to learn how to listen with undivided attention and respond in a way that keeps people talking, keep reading.

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Remove distractions. The first thing you should do when someone starts talking is to put away anything that might distract you from his or her words. Turn off the television, close your laptop and put down anything else you are reading or doing. It’s very difficult to hear and understand what someone is saying when you are surrounded by other sounds or activities vying for your attention.

  • Whether the conversation you are having is over the phone or in person, it can help to move to a room that is free from distractions. Go to a place where you won’t be interrupted by other people.

Many people find it easier to have deep conversations outdoors, where there are fewer distracting screens and gadgets. Try going for a walk in the park or in your neighborhood.

Stay focused. When the other person speaks, focus on what they are saying. Don’t let your mind jump ahead to what you think you should say in reply. Watch the person’s face, eyes and body.What is the other person really trying to say?

  • Part of staying focused and really listening involves interpreting a person’s silences and noticing his or her body language, too. These nonverbal ways of communicating are just as important as words.

Be unselfconscious. Many find it hard to concentrate during conversations because they feel self conscious about how they appear to the other person. It may help to know that if someone is speaking their mind to you, it isn’t likely that they’re judging you at the same time. The speaker is grateful that you’re lending a listening ear. Part of being a good listener is having the ability to stop thinking about yourself during the conversation. If you’re busy thinking about your own insecurities or needs, you aren’t paying attention to what the other person is saying.

Be empathetic. Another key to listening is being able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. If someone is confiding in you about his or her troubles, step outside yourself and imagine what it’s like to be him or her. True communication happens when people understand each other. Find common ground with the person who is speaking and do your best to see things from his or her point of view.

Become a better hearer. You’re probably heard it said that there’s a difference between hearing and listening. Hearing is a the physical act of sensing sounds, while listening is the ability to interpret those sounds as a way to understand the world and other people. The nuances in what you hear should inform the conclusions you make as a listener. For example, a person’s tone of voice can indicate whether he is she is joyful, depressed, angry or scared. Ultimately, honing your sense of hearing will make you a better listener.

  • Work on your sense of hearing by paying more attention to sounds. When was the last time you closed your eyes and let your sense of hearing take the wheel? Stop once in a while and just listen to your surroundings so you can better appreciate the knowledge that can be gained by hearing.

Listen to music more carefully. We are so used to having music in the background now that we don’t often make it the sole focus. Close your eyes and really listen to an entire song or album. Try to pick out individual sounds. If many elements are present, such as in symphonic music, try listening to a single instrument as it travels through the flow of the entire orchestra.

Lean forward a little. This simple body language indicates to the person speaking that you are interested in hearing more.[1] Your body should be facing the person who is talking, and your torso should be at a slight forward angle. The lean doesn’t have to be over pronounced to be effective.

Make eye contact, but not too much. Making eye contact during a conversation also indicates that the person to whom you’re listening has your undivided attention. Eye contact is a very important way to establish open lines of communication. However, you don’t want to sustain eye contact for a prolonged period of time, because that can make the person speaking feel uncomfortable.

  • Research shows that during one-on-one conversations, most people make 7-10 seconds of eye contact before looking away.

Nod in acknowledgement. Nodding your head is another effective way of showing people you’re talking to that you’re right their with them. You can nod in agreement or as a way of nudging the person to say more. Just make sure you nod during appropriate points in the conversation; if you nod when someone tells you something disagreeable, they may feel you aren’t really listening.

  • You can also encourage the person to keep going with short verbal comments, like “yes,” “I see,” or “uh huh.”

Don’t fidget or slouch. Make sure your body language conveys interest, not boredom. If you’re busy picking your nails, tapping your feet, crossing your arms or leaning your head on your hand, most people will end the conversation quickly so as not to bore you out of your mind. Sit up straight to show that you’re engaged in the conversation.

  • If you are disabled and need to fidget in order to listen, find discreet ways to do so, such as wiggling a foot or squeezing a stress ball with your hand resting on the table. If it’s not right in front of their face, they probably won’t mind. If your conversation partner mentions it, explain that this helps you listen, and ask them to continue.

Use appropriate facial expressions. Remember that listening is active, not passive. It’s important to react to people’s words – otherwise, they may as well be writing in their journals. Show you’re interested by smiling, laughing, frowning, shaking your head, an making other expressions and gestures that are right for the moment.

Don’t interrupt. It’s rude to interrupt someone while they’re talking, because it shows that you aren’t really listening – you’re too eager to make sure your own two cents are heard. If you tend to jump in with your opinion before the other person has finished speaking, make a point of quitting your habit of interrupting. Wait until a person has finished his or her thought before you speak.

  • If you do interrupt (everyone does it from time to time), it’s a good idea to apologize and ask the person to please continue what he or she was saying.

Ask questions. Keep other people talking by asking questions that indicate you’ve been listening and would like to know more. You can ask a simple leading question, like “What happened next?” Or something specific to the topic at hand. Chiming in with phrases like “I agree!” and “Me, too” can also help to move the conversation along.

  • You can repeat what someone is telling you as a way to clarify his or her point
  • It’s up to you to decide how personal your questions should be. If your questions are interpreted as crossing a line, the conversation will quickly shut down.
  • Don’t be critical. Be open to understanding the other person’s point of view, even if you’re discussing a subject upon which you disagree. Criticizing the person for saying something you found inadequate or silly is a sure way to keep the person from confiding in you again. A good listener stays as nonjudgmental as possible. If you have a counterargument, wait until the person is finished making his or her point before stating it.
  • Have an honest response. When it’s your turn to speak, respond honestly and openly – but always politely. Offer advice if the person requested it. If you want the relationship to grow, and you trust the person to whom you’re talking, be willing to share your own opinions and feelings in return. Contributing something of yourself to the conversation brings the act of listening full circle.

Tips on Speaking Professionally

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Your speaking style may be preventing you from being taken seriously, even to the point of preventing you from getting a job or advancing if you have one. If you wish to be accepted as a professional, you must possess professional speaking skills, whether you are talking to one person or a group. Fortunately, you can acquire those skills with practice.

Develop Variety in Your Style

  • If you speak with a monotone delivery, you will bore those who listen to you. Instead, vary your speaking speed, deliberately pausing occasionally and raising your voice to make a point. Be careful not to raise your voice at the end of a sentence unless you are asking a question. Raising your voice in this manner turns a statement into a question and gives the appearance that you are uncertain about what you are saying. If you end a statement by lowering your voice, you will command more authority.

Get Honest Feedback

  • As you practice your speaking skills, ask for feedback from people who will give you supportive criticism. Join Toastmasters International to get coaching and practice in polishing your speaking style. You’ll get plenty of opportunities to get up in front of a group, who will provide encouragement while helping you improve your delivery. Study how other people speak. Listen to leaders of your company and watch their delivery style. There are plenty online examples of great speakers to emulate, such as on YouTube.

    HOW TO BE PROFESSIONALLY

    Behaving professionally is an implicit, tacit trait that makes you look confident. You must also act appropriately for the circumstances. Behaving in a professional manner is a talent that can make your life a success.

Watch your personality. The first thing that a stranger sees in you is your outward personality (your first impression) but not just your good looks and charms. So always have a winning personality that everyone seeks for. Joining personality development programs is a good idea to develop your personality.

Don’t boast. Don’t go around telling everyone how you survived Antarctica barefoot or how you climbed the Mt. Everest without using oxygen cylinder. It’s good to boast a little with your close friends and family but not with everyone. They’ll just think that you’re a show-off. Let them talk about their achievements, so that you have equal right to then establish your status. You must not be a self-centered person, but let other people express their views, on ideas upon the meeting table.

Listen. Don’t talk about you and your life only. Let other tell you about themselves, and listen to them. It’s a very good and professional habit to show interest in what they’re saying. Never ignore them while they’re speaking either.

  • It is not a good idea to interrupt the person who is speaking because one may get irritated. Realize the input you would like to make, and find the right time to do so.
  • However, if you disturb the person that you’re listening to, while they’re speaking — hopefully, this person will want to keep the conversation interactive, but remember, don’t go off the topic when disturbing their presentation or point of view.

Dress up professionally. It simply means wear the clothes in which you are comfortable with. The dress should strictly match with your personality or else people are just going to laugh behind your back. If you are a nerd type of guy, don’t go around with a punk type dress.

  • It is also a very good idea to make your own signature style regarding dress. For example, Steve Jobs wore his turtle neck, Levis jeans and white shoes in each and every keynote and public appearances.

Have simple hair styles. Make your style professional looking, wearing deodorant, cologne, perfume, etc. Make sure that your appearance does not reflect immaturity.

Learn to behave professionally. Look directly in the eye of people who are talking to you; don’t make weird faces and don’t stare too much either, doing this to make the speaker think that you respect him but are not intimidated by him.

Do not get overexcited about a product. No matter how hyped the product is, getting overexcited just displays immaturity. If someone has a product that you’ve been waiting to buy, don’t beg them to give it to you a few moments sooner. Keep your calm and your excitement under control.

Talk less, but talk with sense. Don’t talk too much with people unless it’s about sharing valuable ideas with the other people. Be sure to talk with logical, good sense. People should think that you are talkative, but in a good way.

Talk formally. Remember, while you are talking less, with clear sense, be sure to talk formally as well. Speaking informally will leave a bad impression on other people, especially if you are just getting to know a person.

  • Remember not to have the “holier than thou” and the “know it all” attitude; it just puts people off.

Accessorize yourself with some of the latest gadgets in the world. You must be updated with the latest world of fashion and technology and learn to walk with the modern times. Always accessorize yourself professionally.

Don’t ignore others. If someone asks for a necessary help, then please help them, but if a person shows up with a task which he/she can easily do but is too lazy to do it, then advise the person to “Do it for yourself.”

Be good at what you do. If you have several skills or talents, be best at it and never ever try to imitate others. You must always have a great deal of competence so that others will likely notice your professionalism.

Be respectful to others. Be it rich or poor, a CEO or regular staff, your grandpa or the garbage collector, you must respect everybody that you encounter. You must respect all jobs and talk to everybody with equal respect. Slowly, when people start noticing this trait, you’ll be respected.

Learn to keep a promise. If you’ve ever given a promise to somebody, then make sure you keep it. Doing this will make the person think that you are reliable and honest, a trait which will boost your professionalism.

Try to be punctual, not too nonchalant. Time should mean a lot to you. Always be on time for meetings, whether it is with your friends or your clients. Your punctuality will be remembered by other people, as being late drastically lowers the respect that other people have for you.

Don’t be overconfident. Do not show a grin, snarl or grimace. If some work or project is given to you, then don’t grin, or seem overly proud; just put your head up with a very slight smile (or anything else that makes people realize that you are okay with the work and the responsibility). You can also show this confidence at home, work or even on a date.

Pull out evidence when talking. Bring out factual information–citing a quote, offering, bringing forward evidence or support–for your issues. It will influence the person to whom you are telling a quote. But these examples must be related to what you all are talking about. Not trying to do so, will just make you appear to be uninterested in the conversation.

Don’t get overly emotional, proud, hurt or angry. Even it’s a funeral, or your friend’s Nobel acceptance speech, keep things simple and go for a firm handshake to congratulate each. Stay silent at funerals with no obvious tears in the eye; otherwise people may think that you are way too emotional to act professionally in all circumstances.

Tips

  • You can try to rehearse your professionalism, with simple style and a kind of formality everyday such as in front of the mirror (in the beginning phase).
  • Maybe you’ll be discouraged at the beginning but don’t give up’.’
  • You may become shy at first to act professional. But, as time passes by you’ll get used to it.
  • When you’ve made a promise to others and have a hard time to keep up the word, just offer some alternatives or other stuff to the specific person.
  • While behaving professionally, you must not often laugh or grin. Smile rarely, and that would make you seem serious upon your own life and to be seemingly to have no time to waste on silly jokes.

Becoming a Better Leader

Have you ever thought about the steps you can take to improve your knowledge and expertise in order to become a better leader within your company, within your industry, or within your community?

The online business space is pretty crowded these days, and one of the major ways you can stand out from the rest of the businesses in your industry is to be viewed as a leader. 

What being a leader means

Well, according to Google a “leader” is a person who leads or commands a group, organization or country.

I’ll take that, and add a bit to it:

A leader is someone who has a certain amount of expertise in whatever industry or niche they are in, and they are willing – and do – share their insights with those around them through writing, speaking and taking action.

They are good at not only sharing their lessons learned, expertise and insights, but also at teaching others how to apply that so they don’t make the same mistakes. A leader is trusted, holds authority and is viewed as a credible source by those who follow.

They deliver consistent value with integrity and passion, they learn to take responsibility for their actions, and they’re always willing to go the extra mile.

 

Sounds like a pretty good gig, right?

But how exactly do you go about becoming a better leader? Well, it takes time, patience, hard work and a lot of dedication.

7 steps to becoming a better leader

1. Follow leaders who you look up to

This is sort of like writers following the writers they admire. If you’re following true leaders, then you’ll have a lot to learn from them in order to become a better leader yourself.

Take Action: Pick out 2, 3 or even 4 leaders who you admire – either for their speaking abilities, their expertise in a particular industry or niche, their ability to teach others who can learn from their mistakes – and read their articles, follow their speaking engagements and check out their presence on social media and within online communities. You’ll soon find that leaders have an effective way of getting out there and being seen and heard.

2. Practice the things that make you uncomfortable

A lot of you who want to become better leaders probably know exactly what it takes to get there, but the reason you’re not a better leader right now is that you’re scared of those things.

These things might include becoming a better speaker, building stronger relationships, taking yourself out of your comfort zone for travel and other engagements… Guess what? All of these things will help you become a better leader.

Take Action: Start practicing those things that make you uncomfortable with a mentor or friend. Before you know it, you’ll not only become better at doing these things, you might actually grow to like them!

Anything that makes you uncomfortable WILL make you stronger after you’ve achieved it.

3. Tell yourself every day that you’re a leader (and believe it!)

You love staying on the negative side of things, right? You’re not good enough at this, or strong enough at that. It’s comforting to know these things because it means you can’t fail. How can you fail at something you’re not even good at in the first place?

If you already know you can’t do it, then it won’t be a surprise when you don’t.

To become a leader, you have to believe that you are a leader, and then start ACTING like one.

Take Action: Look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself every day that you are a leader.

4. Learn something new about your expertise, industry or niche every day

I don’t care what expertise you have, or what industry or niche you’re in; these days, things are changing by the minute.

In order to maintain your leadership level and your expertise – your ability to teach people things that will keep them from making the same mistakes you did – you need to stay on top of the changes that are happening around you.

Take Action: Do keyword searches for words and phrases that are trending in your business world. Then, find relevant articles, writers and publications who keep up with the latest and greatest and add them to your Feedly, (or whatever platform  you use to track your favorite feeds). This way, you’ll be able to go to a single source for updates relevant to your industry or niche. 

5. Gather resources you use and that you would recommend to others

If you’re being looked at as an authority figure by others, then you better believe you’re the one those people will be looking to for resources and advice. This is why it’s important to have a collection of resources that you not only have used and believe in yourself, but that you also feel strongly about recommending to others.

Take Action: Every time you use a new resource or tool, take notes on your experience with it. Once you have an ongoing list of resources, you can start to build out a resources page on your site to share with your followers.

Note: Your credibility depends on these recommendations, so choose wisely.

6. Read

In addition to following leaders who you look up to, and learning something new about your expertise, industry or niche every day, it’s also important to read, read, read!

Take Action: Make a list of the top 5 business books you want to read, and set a date that you want to have them finished by. Then, hold yourself accountable to that date.

7. Build and grow your relationships

Building and growing your relationships will no doubt, 100% help you become a better leader. The more connected you are, the more people you have to bounce ideas off from and share feedback with, the better off you’ll be.

I can’t think of a single leader who “went at it alone”. You need support and motivation, those who will hold you accountable and who will act as a sounding board for feedback and recommendations.

Take Action: Write down 10 names of people who you feel that – either by building or growing upon your relationship – both of you would benefit. Then, reach out to those people and connect. If they’re in your geographical area, then try to set a time to meet for coffee. If they aren’t in your geographical area, then send them a note and ask how things are going with their business, and whether or not there is anything you can do to help. You can also see if these people are planning to attend any upcoming conferences or speeches, and try to connect with them in person if you’ll be in the same place at the same time.

What becoming a better leader means

Becoming a better leader means growing your expertise in whatever industry or niche you’re in; being willing – and able – to share your insights with those around you; being good at not only sharing your expertise and insights, but also at teaching others how to apply them so they don’t make the same mistakes; and being someone who your followers can trust and view as an authority figure.

It also means big potential for your business.

Deliver value with integrity and passion, and your fans and followers will always be there.

Learn to take responsibility for your actions, and use your failures and missteps as learning experiences. You’ll be amazed by the lessons you can carry with your for years to come, and how those lessons can truly help others.

Make helping others achieve their goals through sharing the lessons learned, skills and knowledge you already have BIGGER than your own fears.

When the going get’s tough, keep on going.

It’s never crowded along the extra mile. – Wayne Dyer

Steps To Applying Flawless Foundation

Creating a flawless foundation may appear difficult especially after several attempts that will end up with blotches, patches and caking. When you look at magazines, you will see cover girls with full coverage and flawless foundation—no no caking, streaks, or patches. The truth is, there are tips that you can follow to achieve a flawless foundation application:

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•Wash your face.
It is always important to have a clean face before applying foundation. Using a good facial cleanser, gently cleanse your face. Continue to work on a lather. Remember to wash and not rub. Rinse your face thoroughly with lukewarm water.

•Apply a toner.
Apply a facial toner after washing your face. It removes the excess dirt from your skin. It also removes the residues from your facial cleanser. It not only freshens up your skin but also balances you skin pH after washing. It is best to chill the toner before use to help close your pores.

 

•Apply moisturizer.
Facial moisturizers help solve issues such as drying, oiliness, and aging of the skin. Most of the moisturizers out in the market contain organic ingredients that help keep the skin healthy-looking. If you have sensitive skin, it is best to choose a moisturizer that has a label saying “non-comedogenic” and “fragrance-free”. For the blemish-prone skin, experts recommend the use of tinted moisturizer. This type helps even out the skin tone and discretely covers the blemishes of the skin. Apply a hefty amount of moisturizer. This is good for the skin since it re-hydrates the face and brings back the lost moisture due to facial cleansing and chemical exposure. Be sure to apply the moisturizer all over the face and the neck. Let it stand for about ten minutes before proceeding to the next step.

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•Apply primer.
Apply a primer over your face. This serves as a makeup base for smoother application of make up. Primer can help prolong your makeup application. The advanced formulation of makeup primers helps treat, protect and smooth the skin. It also helps in fighting off the appearance of wrinkles caused by sun exposure and aging. Best buys are those that contain botanical extracts that help diminish redness and blemishes. Some primers also contain sunscreen protection to protect the skin from the harmful UV rays emitted by the sun.

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•Choose a foundation.
Select a foundation that is suited to your skin tone. Try on at least three different tones on the back of your hand to determine the best foundation that suits your skin. Apply a small streak from the lower cheek to the upper cheek evenly using a dabbing motion.

•Foundation application.
After choosing the best foundation tone, you can now proceed to coverage. Apply a quarter cent-amount of foundation at the back of your hand. Dip a damp makeup sponge or foundation brush into the foundation. Make sure to keep both sides coated. Apply the makeup in dots over your forehead, cheeks, chin and neck. Blend in an outward motion working toward the hairline and jaw line. Use gentle outward strokes. Finish off by brushing some loose powder over the face and neck.

For a slightly sun-kissed look, apply a hint of bronzer over the cheeks, chin and forehead. Applying your makeup foundation using these methods could help you achieve a flawless look.

Tips on: How to Respond to Negative People

Negative people are like human vacuum holes which suddenly come out of nowhere and just suck the life out of you. You try to stay positive and remain strong but their negativity ends up just completely draining you, you feel exhausted, and you may also start to feel depressed.
So what can you do? One of the first things to be aware of who are the negative people in your life? This may not be as easy as you first think.
Here’s some of the signs to look for:
– you experience a sense of being demeaned, constricted or attacked.
– you intuitively feel unsafe, tense or on guard.
– you sense prickly, off-putting vibes. You can’t wait to get away from them.
– your energy starts to fizzle. You may feel beleaguered or ill.”
She also refers to them by the following names you might recognize: the sob sister, the blamer, the drama queen, the constant talker or joke teller, and the fixer-upper (requires endless help).
Also, pay attention to what the person talks about. Is it always about how bad things are? Do they just complain and never actually do anything about what’s upsetting them?
Once you have a good idea on how to recognize them then you can actually work on protecting yourself from them.
Here are 10 strategies on how to deal with negative people:
1. Where’s it coming from?
Do you understand why this person is so negative? Is it because they hate their job, feel frustrated, feel trapped in their life or do they lack in self esteem so the only way they can feel powerful is by hurting others? If you can understand where it’s coming from, it’s much easier to deal with. Some people seem to think that the only way they can get what they want is to be manipulative. Remember the saying, “the squeaky wheel gets the oil.” They believe this and think that if they don’t whine and complain that they won’t be heard and that this is the only way to get what they want.
Remember that the negative behavior is a reflection of them. It tells you what kind of person they are and what issues they may be dealing with. It’s not a reflection of who you are.
2. Just smile and remain completely detached
Whenever the negative tirade starts just smile and don’t say anything. Remain completely detached from it and don’t get involved in it. Leave the room if you can. The negative person is simply seeking to get a reaction from you. That’s what they feed on. Don’t let them catch you in their web of negativity because as soon as you do, that’s when they start draining your energy.
It’s the emotions that these negative people stir up in you that you need to learn to distance yourself from. Try just observing the whole scene. Say to yourself, “what a shame this person is so unhappy. Maybe some of my positive energy will rub off on her. If not, her unhappiness has nothing to do with me.” This isn’t always an easy thing to do but definitely a powerful technique. In order to get the full benefit from it, you need to make sure that you’re aware of what’s going on around you. It’s easy to slip into auto-pilot and not realize until later how drained you feel. You need to detach yourself from the event while it’s happening and just observe it.
This works well for family members who you don’t really have a choice as to whether they’re in your life or not.
3. Say, “Now tell me something positive.” 
Right after someone finished telling you some tragic story, say to them, “Now tell me a positive story” or “Tell me about something good that happened to you today.” Some people have no idea how negative they become. That’s what people surrounded themselves day in, and day out. So it’s just become a way of life for them. By being given the reminder, they may actually realize that being negative isn’t the kind of person they want to be, and may start to work on becoming more positive. Or, they may decide it’s not worth telling you their horror stories because you’ll ask them to think of something positive. Sob sisters always whining, feel the world is against themselves. feel they’re victims. probably find you are the one individual getting tired of the senseless whining-so they decide not to deal with you anymore because you don’t get sucked up into their drama.
Some people may react by saying something like, “Nothing good happened to me today.” You can tell them, like to appreciate and be grateful for all the little things that happen to me everyday. I got to work on time. I had a good breakfast this morning. I’m wearing my favorite shoes. I’m living in a beautiful home or apartment. Surely you have plenty happening for you too.”
4. Imagine a bright white light surrounding you
Yes, this might sound silly at first but if you can do it, it’s amazing how much of a difference it can make. You’ll feel that their negativity can’t touch you because you now have a force field protecting you.
I used to have a really nasty manager who would constantly try to make me feel like an idiot. When I had a shower in the morning, I would imagine that I was being covered with a protective oil so that any of her comments would just slide right off me. I also put up a post it note on my computer that said, “Oiyli” which stood for “Only if you let it”. It reminded me that her comments could only hurt me if I let them. If was my choice as to how to react to her. If I reacted to her comments, she’d gloat knowing that she’d upset me. So, the less I reacted, the less she made her comments because she didn’t get her desired response out of me.
5. Is it a sign?
I find that the “universe” uses negative people as the way to get me to move on whenever I’m getting comfortable in a situation that isn’t challenging me anymore. It’s like a prod that I should be focusing more on following my dream rather than just getting caught up in a nice, comfortable routine that isn’t getting me anywhere. If I didn’t have these people, then I would probably just stay. So, sometimes I’m really grateful to these people because they’re giving me the “kick” that I need to get out of a comfort rut. So, take the time and think about the big picture of the situation. Is it a sign that you need to make some bigger changes in your life?
6. What does it say about you?
Negative people want to get a reaction out of you and the only way they can is if they hit on one your “buttons” or something that causes intense feelings for you. For example, they may bring up past events which they know cause you to feel guilt or anger or make you feel like you’re being rejected or that you’re not good enough.
So, if there’s one particular person who drains you the most, ask yourself why is it affecting you so much? Sometimes, you can learn a lot about yourself by analyzing what feelings it’s bringing up within you. Once you figure it out and deal with it then you’ll find that the energy draining person simply has no power over you anymore.
7. Trying to feel needed
Is listening to the complaints of negative people your way of feeling valued? Does it make you feel needed? If it does, then you need to start valuing yourself more and you’ll find more quality within yourself. Be selective about who, and how you help others. Just listening to negative tales over and over helps neither of you-one party have to speak encouraging words.
A good test to see if this is happening is to notice how you feel after “helping” someone. If you feel drained or tired or annoyed or frustrated then all you’ve done is given over your own energy to them. This isn’t beneficial to you at all, and rarely does it help them in the long run.
8. Try saying, “I love you, thank you, I’m sorry” over and over 
This is kind of an “off the wall” kind of theory but it’s worth a try. If you want to read an article about how a doctor healed an entire mental institution simply by saying these words then read this story: Dr. Len!
9. It’s not your fault
You may be feeling that you have to solve the problems of the energy drainer. You’re not responsible for the person’s life nor their negativity. You don’t have to feel guilty for them being unhappy. Let go of trying to fix or help them. That’s not what they want anyway. They want your energy and so you have to be strong and not give in to them.
A suggestion for dealing with draining co-workers will be mentioning to the person that you have work to do, and you can only listen to them for a minute. If after a few minutes, the person is still going on about the same thing then either change the conversation or politely but firmly end the conversation.
It’s important to be able to let go of the idea that you owe everyone a solution. With some people you just have to let them go. They have to take responsibility for their own lives and they won’t if someone is always there to fix everything for them. So, Let Go! It sounds mean but it definitely doesn’t help them if they end up taking you down with them. In that case, it’s a lose-lose for both of you.
10. Be enthusiastic and focus on your own energy
If you can be higher energy than they are then your energy will most likely start to rub off on those around you instead of the other way around. Also, the less you pay attention to them, the less they’ll affect you. It takes only one person to bring down an entire office but the reverse is true as well in that it only takes one person to completely bring up the positive energy of an entire office.