Practice Self-Love

Hey you! Did you know that you are very special? There is no other person in this world like you. You deserve to be loved not only by those around you but by the most important person in your life — YOU. Practicing self-love can be challenging for many of us, especially in times when we face serious challenges. It’s not about being self-absorbed or narcissistic, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our happiness. We practice self-love so we can push through our limiting beliefs and live a life that truly shines.

So do yourself a favor, take a deep breath, give yourself a little hug and start practicing the following:

  1. Start each day by telling yourself something really positive. How well you handled a situation, how lovely you look today. Anything that will make you smile.
  2. Fill your body with food and drink that nourishes it and makes it thrive.
  3. Move that gorgeous body of yours every single day and learn to love the skin you’re in. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself.
  4. Don’t believe everything you think. There is an inner critic inside of us trying to keep us small and safe. The downside is this also stops us from living a full life.
  5. Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you. Let them remind you just how amazing you are.
  6. Stop the comparisons. There is no one on this planet like you, so you cannot fairly compare yourself to someone else. The only person you should compare yourself to is you.
  7. End all toxic relationships. Seriously. Anyone who makes you feel anything less than amazing doesn’t deserve to be a part of your life.
  8. Celebrate your wins no matter how big or small. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you have achieved.
  9. Step outside of your comfort zone and try something new. It’s incredible the feeling we get when we realize we have achieved something we didn’t know or think we could do before.
  10. Embrace and love the things that make you different. This is what makes you special.
  11. Realize that beauty cannot be defined. It is what you see it as. Don’t let any of those Photo-shopped magazines make you feel like your body isn’t perfect. Even those models don’t look like that in real life.
  12. Take time out to calm your mind every day. Breathe in and out, clear your mind of your thoughts and just be.
  13. Follow your passion. You know that thing that gets you so excited but scares you at the same time. The thing you really want to do but have convinced yourself it won’t work. You should go do that!
  14. Be patient but persistent. Self-love is ever evolving. It’s something that needs to be practiced daily but can take a lifetime to master. So be kind and support yourself through the hard times.
  15. Be mindful of what you think, feel and want. Live your life in ways that truly reflect this.
  16. Treat others with love and respect. It makes us feel better about ourselves when we treat others the way we hope to be treated. That doesn’t mean everybody will always repay the favor, but that’s their problem not yours.
  17. Find something to be grateful for every day. It’s inevitable that you are going to have your down days. This is fine and very human of you. It’s especially important on these days to find at least one thing you are grateful for as it helps to shift your mind and energy around what’s going on.
  18. Reach out to family, friends, healers, whomever you need to help you through the tough times. You are not expected to go through them alone.
  19. Learn to say NO! Saying no sometimes doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you a smart person.
  20. Forgive yourself. You know that thing you did one time (or maybe a few times) that made you feel bad, embarrassed, ashamed? It’s time to let that go. You can’t change the things you have done in the past but you can control your future. Look at it as a learning experience and believe in your ability to change.
  21. Write it down. Head swimming with so many thoughts it’s giving you a headache? Write them all down on a piece of paper, no matter how crazy, mean, sad, or terrifying they are. Keep it in a journal, tear it up, burn it, whatever you need to do to let it go.
  22. Turn off and inwards. Grab a cup of your favorite tea, coffee, wine, whatever your choice of drink, and sit down for a few minutes on your own. No TV or distractions, just you. Think about the wonderful things that are happening in your life right now, what your big dreams are and how you can make them happen.
  23. Give up the need for approval from others. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” — Dita Von Teese
  24. Be realistic. There is no person on this earth that is happy every single moment of every single day. You know why? Because we are all human. We make mistakes, we feel emotions (good and bad) and this is OK. Allow yourself to be human.
  25. Get creative and express yourself in whatever way you like. Painting, writing, sculpting, building, music, whatever takes your fancy, and make sure you leave your inner critic at the door. There are no right ways to be creative.
  26. Let go of past trauma and wounds. This can be a really tough one and it may be one of those times you need to turn to others for support. The truth is though, when we let go of things that have happened to us it’s almost like a weight is lifted off our shoulders. We don’t have to carry that around with us anymore. We deserve better.
  27. Find your happy place. Where’s the one place you feel totally at ease, calm, happy, positive, high on life? Go to that place when you are going through hard times, or imagine yourself being there. Think about how it feels, what it smells like, what it looks like.
  28. The next time you are feeling happy and on top of the world make a list of your best qualities and accomplishments. It may sound a little corny, but it can be a wonderful reminder when you are having a day that’s less than amazing.
  29. Get in touch with your inner dialogue. If it’s anything less than loving, encouraging and supportive, it’s time to make a change. You deserve to be spoken to in the same way you would speak to your best friend, sister, brother, daughter, or son.
  30. Have fun! Get out there and do the things that light your fire. Enjoy them, enjoy being you and enjoy your incredible life.

 

“Life is hard at times. But when I overcome more challenges, I become much stronger then. So I’m going to embrace them.”

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How To Apply Emotional Intelligence In The Workplace

Emotional intelligence describes a person’s ability to perceive, assess and manage his own emotions and those of others. While it would seem that personal emotions should have no place in a workplace, humans cannot separate themselves from their feelings even when they try to act professionally. Instead of pretending emotions do not exist at work, learn how to better manage them to succeed and improve relationships with your colleagues and supervisors.

Instructions

    • 1
      Step outside yourself to become more aware of your emotions. Self-awareness is a pillar of emotional intelligence. By gaining a greater awareness of your feelings, you will better understand what causes you to become angry, happy or sad. Perhaps the other person involved in the situation or the situation itself makes you react in certain ways.
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      Learn how to manage your emotions. Managing emotions does not involve suppressing them; the term refers to evaluating the reason why you feel as you do and what you choose to do about it. For example, you can handle anger in a few different ways. You may decide to keep it to yourself until your fury boils over. Or, you could take out your anger on your spouse or other loved ones. Conversely, you might examine why you feel the way you do, and you could decide whether or not it is truly worth it to be angry.

  • 3
    Motivate yourself to achieve goals and attain results. Once you urge yourself to meet your objective, you will begin to encourage others to do the same. Self-motivation requires working out of a sense of hope rather than a feeling of dread or fear. Anxiety does not inspire people to do their best, whereas optimism gives people the sense that they can indeed accomplish their aims.
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    Empathize with others at the workplace. Empathy shows that you have the ability to put yourself in other people’s shoes. When you empathize, you see things from the other person’s perspective and gain a deeper insight into how and why he feels the way he does. Compassion allows you to better understand what factors influence another person.
  • 5
    Guide the emotions of others at work by inspiring them, resolving conflicts and building strong bonds among everyone in the workplace. This type of emotional guidance is known as relationship management. It requires clear and convincing communication skills to positively influence others.

 

How To Get A Man To Respect You

To gain respect from a man, you must demonstrate that you respect yourself, and that you respect others. Self-confident people, with high self-esteem, will be less likely to be disrespectful relationship. According to the Mayo Clinic, people who have low self-esteem or a negative self-image will feel the negative impact in many parts of their life, including their relationships. By improving your self-esteem; your self-respect will increase, triggering more respect from a man.

Step 1

Reduce your negative thinking patterns. Start by making note of those patterns, the Mayo Clinic suggests. Notice whether you tend to dismiss the positives, and only remember the negatives. Take the time to challenge your negative thoughts, and replace them with positive ones. Keep doing this until you naturally begin to have positive thoughts. A positive thought process will increase your self-confidence and your feelings of worth.

      

Step 2

Avoid talking down to yourself in front of the man. Do not call yourself negative words in general, but especially in front of the man you want to respect you. If you make a mistake, avoid faulting yourself; suggest that it was a result of the situation.

Step 3

Respect yourself by engaging in activities that demonstrate your self-respect. If you respect yourself, the respect from a man will increase. Avoid doing things that make you feel worthless or uncomfortable. Tell people “no” if they ask you to do something you do not want to do.

Step 4

Move with confidence. Your body posture and the way you use your nonverbal cues can express to a man how you feel about a situation or yourself, notes Helpguide.org. When you walk, hold your head up and keep your back straight. This will make you look confident and sure of yourself. Avoid looking down at the ground. Make eye contact when you are engaged in conversation.

Step 5

Ask for respect. Tell the man how his comments and actions make you feel. Provide him with examples of things he has said and done that make you feel disrespected. Tell him that he must respect you if the relationship is going to continue.

Step 6

Question his disrespectful behaviors or actions immediately. Tell him how he is being disrespectful as soon as he does it. Do not allow the disrespect to continue. If he continues being disrespectful, leave the situation; returning only when he has stopped. If you remain while he is being disrespectful, you might begin to believe the things he says.
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The Blue Zone: People Who’ve Lived The Longest

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Mary Bell Easton lived to be 101 years of age

Extreme longevity has always been a quirky thing, happening in isolated mountain villages few people visit. Until recent years, no one asked this question: Could we create those same conditions in the United States so that most people would celebrate their 100th birthday—healthy, happy, and without the aches and pains we usually associate with aging?

Absolutely, says Dan Buettner, author of The Blue Zones: 9 Power Lessons for Living Longer from the People Who’ve Lived the Longest, the second edition to be released in November. Not only is extreme longevity possible here, it’s already being achieved in communities across the U.S.—and, in a few instances, Blue Zones principals have been adopted by individual companies, aiming to become Blue Zones Certified Workplaces.

What Are Blue Zones?

Blue Zones are places where people live longer and healthier than anywhere else on the planet, passing their centennial years at a rate 10 times greater than most Americans. For the first edition of his book, Buettner led a team of National Geographic researchers in studying a collection of “longevity hot spots” across the globe. Their work was prompted by a 1999 Danish study of nearly 4,000 twins older than age 75; scientists found that only 25 percent of their hospitalizations were caused by genetic factors and that most of their health profiles were “most likely due to nonfamilial environment.”

So Buettner’s team set out to study long-living peoples, including those in Nicoya, Costa Rica, where residents boast the lowest middle-age mortality on earth; Sardinia, Italy, where men generally outlive women; and Loma Linda, California, where a community of Seventh-Day Adventists enjoy a life expectancy nine to 11 years longer than the average American. Much of the book’s updating focuses on Ikaria, Greece, the most recently discovered and, Buettner says, the“most extraordinary” Blue Zone.

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The Island Where People Forget to Die

“In America, once we hit 85, there’s about a 50 percent chance you’ll suffer from dementia,”Buettner says. “In Ikaria, the rate is about one-fourth ours. They stay sharp to the end.” But it’s not only their mental health that remains intact; four times as many Ikarian men and two-and-a-half times as many women, reach the age of 90, compared to Americans. What’s more, they stay healthier along the way, living eight to 10 years longer before contracting cancers and heart disease.

And they do it with a smile, Buettner writes in a recent article in The New York Times Magazine. In a survey of Ikarian men aged 65 to 100, some 80 percent had sex regularly—and, they reported, they did the deed with “good duration” and “achievement.” The islanders’ secret, Buettner believes, is a “gold standard” variant of the Mediterranean diet, including diuretic teas—such as rosemary, sage, and dandelion—that help to lower blood pressure and inflammation, plenty of indigenous honey instead of refined sugar, bread made of stone-ground wheat, and two to four glasses of wine each day.

Blue Zones in the United States?

Since his longevity studies began, one of Buettner’s aims has been to adapt the same principals into “Blue Zones Projects” in the U.S. The first city to enact a Blue Zones plan for initiating healthy environmental, social, and policy changes was Albert Lea, Minnesota. They called their effort the “Vitality Project,” and the results were remarkable. Life expectancy of participants increased by 3.1 years, and their healthcare costs were slashed by nearly half.

Last May, Governor Terry Branstad announced that Iowawould launch the first Healthiest State Initiative, with the towns of Cedar Falls, Mason City, Spencer and Waterloo selected as the state’s first Blue Zones Project Demonstration Sites, with six additional communities to join in early 2013.

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As Buettner and his team studied the Blue Zones, they identified nine common traits shared by those communities where people live longer. He was surprised that it wasn’t only food and lifestyle, but also creating a most beneficial environment. Here’s a look at these longevity-boosting traits, known as the “Power of 9.:

  • Move naturally.      “Do your own house and yard     work, go up and down your stairs with your laundry, knead your own dough,”     Buettner advises. “Incorporate more movement every hour.”
  • Know your     purpose. “Take time to recognize your values, strengths, talents,     passions and gifts,” Buettner says. Reflect, and work on yourself.
  • Down shift.     Relieve chronic stress by finding time each day to nap, meditate or pray.
  • The 80% rule.     Cut 20 percent of your daily calories with proven healthy practices: eat a     big breakfast, dine with your family, and begin each meal by expressing     appreciation.
  • Plant slant.     Eat mostly plant-based foods, and small portions of meat no more than     twice a week.
  • Wine at 5.     Drinkers live longer than non-drinkers. This longevity tip had one     exception: those in the Loma Linda Blue Zone were Seventh Day Adventists,     who abstain from alcohol.
  • Family first.     Living in a loving, thriving family can add up to six years to your life.     Work on a positive, committed relationship and stay close to your aging     parents and grandparents.
  • Belong.“Those with the most social connectedness tend to live longer,” Buettner     says. Be part of a group of healthy-minded, supportive people.
  • Right tribe.     Good friends have a positive effect on your longevity. Support them and     adopt healthy behaviors together.